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logoLutheran Counseling Services
 
Sharing God's Abundant Grace Winter 2011
 
Main Location:
1505 Orchid Av
Winter Park FL 32789
Satellites:
St. Luke's Lutheran, Oviedo
Spirit of Joy, Orlando
Asbury United Methodist, Maitland
Woodlands Lutheran, Montverde
Prince of Peace
Orlando
Hope Lutheran/
Trinity Lutheran
The Villages

 
Board of Directors
Jim DeMark
Judy Duda
Mark Engwall
Suzanne Graham
 
Martha Kessler
 
Dr. Marty Lewis
Rev. Jeff Linman
Duane Massoll
Scott Morris

Ruth Rieder
Susan Roby
Corrine Roy
Robert Waggoner

Jon Yergler
 

You can also view our newsletter on our website at www.LcsFL.com
 
 

Partnership

YOUR PARTNERSHIP with LCS is necessary for those who come. As people are more affected by job losses...we have been here for them! In recent years LCS has had a 22% increase in sessions with a four-fold increase in fee subsidy (funds we have to find) in order to help them with their limited health care resources. We often hear: "You've been here when others have not...!" A random survey of 70 people who came, indicated nearly 90% stating 'improvement' for why they came (10% said "too early to tell"). YOU CAN BE A PART of LCS' response for those who come for help. We kindly ASK FOR YOUR GENEROSITY in "helping LCS help them." You may donate with an on-line gift (through our website LcsFL.com), or mail a check to LCS, 1505 Orchid Ave., Winter Park, FL 32789. Thank you for your help!
 

 

"Thankful Moments"
 
By Rev. Mel Jacob

 

I was scheduled to lead our staff devotion last week. I like to give a theological reflection not only on what is happening in the LCS' world of "more are coming with increased needs" but, also, the larger world around us and our personal lives.

 

I borrowed a 'reflection' that had been meaningful to me. It was written by Fr. Thomas Keatings a Trappist monk and well-known for his writings on Centering Prayer. I used his thoughts from "Being Truly Present" in Reawakenings for my devotion. These were based on Jesus' words that came after his resurrection where he told his fear-filled disciples, hunkered down behind locked doors, the words, "Peace be with you."

 

All at LCS from the receptionist to business manager and counselors/therapists daily hear a lot of fears from the people who call and come for our multiple services. The staff devotion was filled with conversation on the subject of fear and peace and the idea of being-truly-present. There was a lot to lay in the context of prayer as we concluded. Afterwards, someone suggested I should write about the subject for this Thanksgiving/Advent season newsletter. So, I hope these words speak to you.


Keatings reflected: "Peace is something greater than joy or any emotion. It is beyond joy and beyond suffering. ...Peace is defined as the tranquility of order: everything in its right place....We live waiting for the right moment to be converted and to start to practice the virtues, to pray, or to enter some ministry. All of us are waiting for the perfect situation when at last we have the time for prayer, reflection, spiritual reading, service to others, we can forgive our enemies, our early education, the church, our mothers and fathers, and finally ourselves..."
 

These words surely speak to our contemporary 'fears' and offer a backdrop for this Thanksgiving/ Advent Season. There is a lot to suck joy out and disrupt tranquility. Meeting expenses with less income, uncertainties with later life security, governmental leaders stymied in working together, continual rumblings of terrorism, national and global economic downturns, family tensions and dysfunction, personal doubts, etc. We, too, ask what is the 'right place' for everything?

 

Keatings' alternative was creating the "habit" of experiencing God, the divine presence, in the 'present.' To accentuate his point, he wrote that "the right order for human beings is to see, hear, touch, feel, and taste God in everything that happens..."

 

A frequent challenge is listening without judgment to individuals who do not desire, refuse, or simply are not ready to see God in the immediate present, much less everything that happens. So, we open our ears and hearts to the 'un-peace' in their words, then wait with Advent-expectancy by being truly present.


Hope, healing, and well-being within the midst of all that brings un-peace are miracles of divine proportions. Glimpses and expressions of these miracles of peace truly are celebration times. To experience such 'miracles' with those who come is a wonderful re-awakening occasion. "Right Moments" to give thanks....for the peace seen and shared, for those (individuals, congregations and judicatories, foundations, etc.) who partner with gifts to help LCS serve, and for Him-the never leaving, truly present Prince of Peace.

 

"Gratefulness in the Present"
 
By Rev. Mary Jacob, ARNP, PSYMHCNS-BC

 

As a Spiritual Director, I have been privileged to experience gratefulness in the present over and over again. The spiritual direction relationship is all about being in the present - companioning another person on his or her faith journey. Having been trained for three years in the practice of spiritual direction (I prefer the term "spiritual companioning"), and having experienced my own spiritual direction relationship over the past eight years, I have developed a deep respect for what it means to give and receive an invitation to be "in the moment" and savor the grace and love of God, experienced in one's own personal way. The only possible response is gratefulness!
People sometimes ask, "When does one seek spiritual direction, and when would pastoral counseling be chosen instead?" In October, I explored this very question with eighteen pastoral counselors, doctoral students, and mental health therapists, of various church denominations, in a workshop setting at a regional meeting of American Association of Pastoral Counselors. The group agreed that careful, other-focused listening is an ingredient in both spiritual direction and pastoral counseling. In both types of helping relationship, a person may bring any concern from their life for consideration. The difference between the two approaches to personal growth is the focus. In counseling, the focus is often on solving life problems and navigating difficult life passages from a psychological perspective. Pastoral counseling offers an opportunity to fully explore the spiritual perspective as well. In contrast, the focus of spiritual direction is on a person's relationship with God - prayer life, ongoing and unfolding spiritual practices, and stages of spiritual development in someone sincerely seeking closeness to God. Spiritual Direction is not counseling or therapy. While spiritual concerns can be addressed in therapy, and healing can occur in spiritual direction, each has its primary focus. Tilden Edwards (Spiritual Director, Spiritual Companion, 2001) writes, "At their best, spiritual direction and various kinds of psychological counseling complement one another, and both can be seen to contribute to human well-being."
In the words of Spiritual Directors International (www.sdiworld.org), "like prayer, contemplation, and meditation, spiritual direction nourishes the spiritual aspect of being human, allowing us to serve with authenticity and grateful hearts."
If you would like to know more about spiritual direction/companioning, email Mary Jacob at maryjacob@lcsfl.com or call 407-644-4692.
 


 

 

Reflections From a Pastoral Counselor

 

Rev. Dr. Rick Armstrong, LMFT

 
As a staff we identified our theme for this quarter's newsletter to be "Gratefulness in the Present" which I think is an important theme for life each day. I began by thinking of my own situation my wife and our relationship, my faith and relationship with a grace-filled God, our children, their families (as I write this 2 more grandchildren on the way!), my father (just celebrated his 86th birthday) and his wife and my sister and her family - all important pieces of my present and pieces of my reasons for gratefulness. And then other pieces include my work and ministry at LCS as well as the ministry and place of grace that LCS is for many in our community. Also our staff - my colleagues - and our Board of Directors and those who financially support LCS - those who make it possible for us to serve and be present and offer care for many in difficult times. Gratefulness in the Present for sure!


And then I reflected on the fact that I have worked this year with many whose present is vastly different now than what their recent past was and even more different than what they imagined that their present and future would be. I worked this year in Alabama following over 130 tornados in that state in one day; in Haiti still recovering from years of unbelievable poverty and the earthquake from which they are still recovering and will be for a while; I've worked this year (as well as other years) with folks grieving over the loss of loved ones, or a job, or a marriage, or dreams, or the ambiguity of pending loss in disease, congregational/organizational instability, changing life situations, and questions about economic security. And the list could go on and on. Gratefulness in the present?...The present is not yet comfortable for some, so maybe for that reason gratefulness is hard to feel because the reality of instability is felt so strongly.


Feelings of instability and "not yet comfortable" are pretty normal in times of loss and grief! Recovery from grief and loss is a process which takes time. We often feel as though we want things over and done with quick. At times we even convince ourselves that things are over and done with. But for many that may not be the case. In disasters many are dealing with home repairs, insurance claims and the added expenses from all of the storms. For others experiencing loss or impeding loss they are dealing with loneliness, mixed feelings about memories, anger, economic struggles, issues of personal value and worth, questions around the upcoming holidays and possibly the "clouds" around the year(s)to come. Many of these realities might influence one's view of the present. Recovery also has to do with a new sense of vulnerability and/or a new discovery of how we are protected and empowered to survive. I think that was what the prophet wrote about in Isaiah 40 when he said "Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint."

 

That verse seems to talk through the present to a future which is not easy to comprehend in the times after a loss. In times after loss we are often filled with questions and fears about life, ourselves, relationships, including our relationship with God. Even though we have questions and fear, we can know we have a future and God's presence through these uncomfortable times. As the days go on into weeks and months we often begin to see a "new normal" replace the old normal. In that we might discover the meaning of the passage

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." That's God speaking in our present about our future...that's knowing God in our present as God was in our past and will be in our future. And for that we might be able to begin to be grateful. I know I am and I pray that for you as well.

Circle of Life
 

 
"The Circle of Life" Wellness series will be offered evenings in January (8 sessions). Areas include: spirituality, fitness, nutrition, career, financial health, nature, emotions and life's purpose. "The Circle of Life" is not a therapy group. It is intended to build upon the identified strengths of participants to enhance/strengthen health and well-being. Call us for more info: 407-644-4692.
 
Thanks....

 
Thanks to all the individuals who have made donations to LCS so that we can help others. We also want to express our appreciation to the foundations and congregations who have kindly given us grants and financial support the last year or so.

Edyth Bush Charitable Foundation
Central Florida Community Foundation
 
Darden Restaurants Foundation
Dr. P. Phillips Foundation
 
The Ferdinand & Anna Duda Foundation
John Duda Foundation
 
LCMS, Care/Recovery of Church Workers
ELCA Foundation Lutheran Services for the Elderly
 
Magruder Foundation
Thrivent Financial for Lutherans
 
Winter Park Health Foundation
VNA Foundation

 
Asbury United Methodist Church, Maitland
Ascension Lutheran Church, Casselberry
 
Bethany Lutheran Church, Leesburg
Hope Lutheran Church, The Villages
 
Incarnation Lutheran Church, Silver Springs
Prince of Peace Lutheran Church, Orlando
 
Spirit of Joy Lutheran Church, Orlando
St. John Lutheran Church, Winter Park
 
St. John Youth Ministry, Winter Park
St. Luke's Lutheran Church, Oviedo
St. Philip Lutheran Church, Mt. Dora
 
Trinity Lutheran Church, Orlando
Woodlands Lutheran Church, Montverde
 
Thrivent Choice - Touch Lives, Warm Hearts
 
Here's how it works. Eligible Thrivent members are designated Choice Dollars that they can direct to their preferred Lutheran organization including Lutheran Counseling Services. Potential Choice Dollars range from $25 to $500 for benefit members. By directing designated Choice Dollars, you can request funding for our organization. The grant funds will be used to benefit those who can't afford to come to Lutheran Counseling during these tough economic times.
Help make a difference!
 
For more information about the Thrivent Choice program:
- Visit Thrivent.com/ThriventChoice
- Call 1-800-847-4836 and say "Thrivent Choice"
- Or call your Thrivent Financial Representative
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